Miss L is in middle school. We all remember those hellish years. The freedom and confidence of childhood is leaving and being replaced by the overly active self critiquing mind of a teen. The metamorphose appears as painful as transforming into a werewolf.
They lash out, they get bullied, they hurt, they are ashamed and confused by all the changes that are happening all around and inside of them. They begin to feel the weight of the world. That stress is overwhelming. So L lashes out at her siblings and occasionally me… so we talked.
Life is stressful, it will never be stress free again for her. If anything the responsibilities and demands keep growing. But it is a mistake to confuse unhappiness with responsibility, and happiness to be the lack of it. Busier people tend to be happier. I told L I find that I am most happy not when I am resting, but when I am creating something beautiful, be it in art, a meal, nurturing my children, or contributing to a positive experience, especially for those I love.
Today we went on an adventure to Nelson’s landing. We prepped our food together, loaded up the car… the kids dug in the mud, climbed the rocky hills, swam and lunched by the Colorado river — in to which V and I jumped… off a cliff… that was awesomely frightening. We were active and working together to make an amazing experience.
Beyond enjoyment, I hope my kids see through our adventures that it takes effort to make a great day.